Do You Have a Condom I Can Use?

I need my followers to all share their thoughts on this situation.

We are living in a day and age of STDs and I am not talking about short term disability. Sexual Transmitted Diseases. Its a serious matter and if people are making the decision to be sexually active they should make sure they are being safe. For that reason, men and women alike should be smart and protect themselves. A lot of men and women keep condoms on hand. That could be in your nightstand, car, purse or wallet.



So what happens when you begin a monogamous sexual relationship with someone and you have agreed to be exclusive. The two of you have made the decision to no longer use condoms and have taken your relationship to that next level. Should either party still be walking around with a condom in their purse or wallet? Should you still have your stash in your nightstand drawer? If you love this person and you know you aren't dating, talking, let alone having sex with anyone else why is it necessary to have condoms still?

If you feel the need to still walk around with condoms is that because you know you might have sex with someone else? Maybe its to prepare yourself for that moment of weakness? Perhaps it shouldn't be a big deal because ultimately if you were going to cheat it doesn't even mean you would use that condom or a condom at all?

Now lets take it one step further. What if your significant other asked that you take the condoms out of your purse or wallet because you don't need them? Would you respect their wishes and do it? Or stand strong in your beliefs that you have always carried them with you and should keep them just in case?

On the range....

I went to the range a couple of weekends ago. (I thought I had already posted this but apparently not..anyways.) For those who are lost and wondering what the hell I am talking about it was the gun range. I don't think I have ever been so excited, nervous and scared at the same time in my life. When I got there this old man proceeded to yell out the rules. Everything was followed by its not what we want but it is what the insurance company says. (For the record this guy definitely looked like he was on his third bottle of whiskey at 2pm in the afternoon.) Anyways once I read and listened to all the rules it was time to start. I put my ear and eye protection on and stepped into a new world.

I was nervous as hell but I wasn't going to show it. I had already practiced loading the 9mm gun (which I did on my first try..go me!) but knowing I was actually going to shoot it was a whole new ballgame. I stepped up to the counter and cocked the 9mm. This was supposed to be the easiest gun to start with for a rookie like myself. I waited for everything to line up and I pulled the trigger making sure my thumb wasn't in the way. My first impression was damn this is loud as hell. Then in how in anticipation of the power I jumped back. Wrong move. I scared myself for no reason. I looked up at my target and to my surprise I was dead on. I was pumped. I kept shooting but the remainder of the shots weren't all as successful. I missed the target some and I jammed the gun a couple of times because I was scared. It was all good though.

I also had a chance to use a .45 and a .357 six shooter. The .357 was cool because it was easy and I got to use magnum bullets. Which I have to admit were the scariest part of the entire experience. In the end I had a ton of fun. It was great doing something different that I never thought I would do. Which is what 2009 is all about. Stepping out of my comfortable zone and doing me.

Check out my skills below. :)

Welcome Mr. President

I remember waking up at the crack of dawn to cast my vote for President and standing in an extremely long line. (Thankfully I wasn't there too long.. good looking out Big Cease.) I remember on that faithful November evening waiting for the polls to close and for the numbers to start coming in. As I flipped through the various news channels trying to see who had the most up to date information, I was extremely nervous. As I tried to be patient, I just had so many emotions inside. I remember talking to people that night and everyone was emotional. Regardless of who you wanted to win people were watching and sitting on edge to hear those final results. I was lucky to share that special historical moment with people who were close to me. It feels like it was so long ago but it was only a little more than 2 months ago.

I still can't believe that by 12:01 tomorrow afternoon we will have an African American president. Mr. Obama has a lot of work ahead of him and unfortunately he will have to carry that weight on his shoulders. The weight of knowing that many of the decisions he makes will be overshadowed by his race. Looking past his race, I think if anyone was ready to make this huge move in the right direction for the future of the United States it is him. I can only sit back and watch this all play out. I am just as proud, happy and excited as I was on that night and the days that followed. It is time for a change. I am looking forward to the next four years.

Trust

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved". ~George MacDonald

I ran across this quote while perusing the Internet. It spoke to me. I never thought about it but its so true..especially for me. Allowing myself to trust someone is something that I hardly do. I think given the opportunity people will screw you over, whether that is intentional or not. It is extremely hard not being able to trust though and always playing the "what if" game. It is added stress that in the world we live in, I wish I could side step. Funny thing is the minute you think its ok to trust and everything will be fine is the very moment that everything turns to shit. You have seen my blogs in the past about love and how complicated it can be. Well trusting someone is that even harder. The worst part is that once you are hurt or screwed it makes it even more difficult to trust again. At least that is the case for me.

My girl Ms. Diva has frequently asked the question of what makes you think you can trust someone. I am sitting here and I am wondering the same thing.

Rihanna...Rehab

I absolutely love this song and I am upset that I just realized she released the video. I am a couple of months late but its ok. The music is great, the lyrics are on point, and I for one can certainly relate. Watching the video I must say her tattoo on the back of her neck is fierce but I am not feeling how scruffy JT is looking. On second thought it is kinda sexy. Anyways enjoy...

Rihanna - New Music - More Music Videos

Goodbye 2008, Hello 2009

As this year comes to an end, its a time to reflect. A time to look at the decisions you have made and decide what to do in the new year. People take the time to make new years resolutions and hope to stick to them. All the while counting down for that magical ball to drop. I don't get why everyone acts like the moment the clock strikes midnight that everything will change. Last time I checked its not a light switch that gets flipped and life is fast forwarded. You are in the same place you were just a few moments ago its just a new year. There is no huge change to your life.

Everyone gets dazzled up and prepares to enjoy the last day of the year with friends, family and/or loved ones. I am all for that but honestly if I hear one more person say "I can't wait for next year." Or "next year is going to be different" or "its going to be our year".. I might scream. Unless you are going to do something to make moves or changes in your life its going to be the same shit you were dealing with in the current year. Don't just talk about what you want or think about it. In 2009 please make it happen. That is my plan and I hope others really think about what they want and do the same.

I hope that everyone enjoys their New Year's Eve!

We Need This Win!!

Dallas Cowboys vs. Washington Redskins tonight at 8:15pm in Landover, MD.



I have already stated that I am a Cowboys fan. Yup I am from the DMV and I say f the Redskins. The last time the Cowboys and the Skins played the I was disappointed by the Cowboys. Their plays were mediocre at best, they were cocky for no reason which is evident by the fact that they lost and their minds were not in it. Considering that was the last time they would play the Skins at Texas Stadium I expected more.

Tonight I am hoping they come through. This is a big game for us. Not only are the Skins our biggest rival so we need to beat them but if we lose this week it puts us in last place in the NFC East. We are talking playoffs people.. its just around the corner and the Cowboys should be in a much better position then they are currently. At this point just winning this game tonight still means they have to bust their asses for the next 6 games or its a wrap.

I am hoping the Cowboys used the bye week to get their minds right and come up with the best defense and offense to take on the Redskins. Despite not liking the Redskins I know they are going to play hard and try to use that home field advantage.

So in closing the Redskins are going to come out to play tonight. The Cowboys better do the same.